I agree that all of Cali is not a pile of💩, but I suspect fully 20% of the once great state is now.
Coexist is a popular bumper sticker in these formally amazing places.
Perhaps if you see one it might help you to understand that folks can be just as disgusted with “Cali” as you may be with the extreme distaste of the place.
Live and let live, be respectful of your sisters and try to be more tolerant of others.